Option B is a heartbreaking story of loss as well as an inspirational guide to living.

Option B by Sheryl Sandberg and Adam M. Grant.

“From Facebook’s COO and Wharton’s top-rated professor, the #1 New York Times best-selling authors of Lean In and Originals: a powerful, inspiring, and practical book about building resilience and moving forward after life’s inevitable setbacks.” Goodreads.
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My review:

Sheryl Sandberg suffered a tragic and unthinkable loss when her husband died on vacation, and just like anyone else, she had to develop coping strategies and solutions to problems in order to work through her grief, comfort her children and get back to living.  Her personal story is honest, devastating and inspiring as she, along with her friend and co-writer, Adam Grant, present a lot of great information and ideas for those who have experienced a loss, also providing advice and suggestions for friends, family and coworkers on how to be supportive and understanding in Option B: Facing Adversity, Building Resilience, and Finding Joy.

The book has expertly woven Sandberg’s personal stories with a more technical approach to grief.  Based on research, Sandberg and Grant suggest recovery from a tragedy can be stunted if you tend to think what happened is your fault, if you believe the bad thing that happened will affect all areas of your life and if you think the feelings of unhappiness will never end.  Once you realize none of these are true, you are better able to cope and are on the road to recovery.

They talk about the benefits of journaling to work through feelings and how to focus on the positives.  Sandberg says “Journaling helped me make sense of the past and rebuild my self confidence to navigate the present and future.”  “Adam suggested I write 3 things I have done well today”.  They suggest that “contributions are active” and they “remind us that we can make a difference”.   Also the suggestion of writing down 3 moments of joy experienced each day helps to remember there are still good things happening.

Another area of helpful advice revolves around building resilience in children and helping them develop 4 core beliefs: “1) they have some control over their lives, 2) they can learn from failure, 3) they matter as human beings, and 4) they have real strengths to rely on and share.”  Sheryl shares conversations with her children and although each person and situation is unique, it gives the reader ideas of how to help children process a death and cope with a painful situation.

In the wake of tragedy and loss we also learn about some possible positive repercussions.  At this crucial time there is opportunity to change your thought process and dig deep.  Post traumatic growth includes “finding personal strength, gaining appreciation, forming deeper relationships, discovering more meaning in life and seeing new possibilities.”

In Option B there are lots of great examples based on experts and research of how to face adversity head on and come out ok on the other side.  In addition, Sandberg talks about her experiences, how she made decisions about the children without her beloved partner, how humor is necessary and plays an important role in resilience and what is helpful to receive in terms of support and kind words from friends, coworkers and others.

This inspirational book is Sheryl Sandberg’s personal story along with fantastic suggestions for things to do and ways to think about life when faced with adversity.  It is a book everyone should read…a great gift as well.

 

As stated in Goodreads:

After the sudden death of her husband, Sheryl Sandberg felt certain that she and her children would never feel pure joy again. “I was in ‘the void,’” she writes, “a vast emptiness that fills your heart and lungs and restricts your ability to think or even breathe.” Her friend Adam Grant, a psychologist at Wharton, told her there are concrete steps people can take to recover and rebound from life-shattering experiences. We are not born with a fixed amount of resilience. It is a muscle that everyone can build.

Option B combines Sheryl’s personal insights with Adam’s eye-opening research on finding strength in the face of adversity. Beginning with the gut-wrenching moment when she finds her husband, Dave Goldberg, collapsed on a gym floor, Sheryl opens up her heart—and her journal—to describe the acute grief and isolation she felt in the wake of his death. But Option B goes beyond Sheryl’s loss to explore how a broad range of people have overcome hardships including illness, job loss, sexual assault, natural disasters, and the violence of war. Their stories reveal the capacity of the human spirit to persevere . . . and to rediscover joy.

Resilience comes from deep within us and from support outside us. Even after the most devastating events, it is possible to grow by finding deeper meaning and gaining greater appreciation in our lives. Option B illuminates how to help others in crisis, develop compassion for ourselves, raise strong children, and create resilient families, communities, and workplaces. Many of these lessons can be applied to everyday struggles, allowing us to brave whatever lies ahead. Two weeks after losing her husband, Sheryl was preparing for a father-child activity. “I want Dave,” she cried. Her friend replied, “Option A is not available,” and then promised to help her make the most of Option B.

We all live some form of Option B. This book will help us all make the most of it.

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SHERYL SANDBERG is chief operating officer at Facebook, overseeing the firm’s business operations. Prior to Facebook, Sheryl was vice president of Global Online Sales and Operations at Google, chief of staff for the United States Treasury Department under President Clinton, a management consultant with McKinsey & Company, and an economist with the World Bank.

Sheryl received a BA summa cum laude from Harvard University and an MBA with highest distinction from Harvard Business School.

Sheryl is the co-author of Option B: Facing Adversity, Building Resillience, and Finding Joy with Wharton professor and bestselling author Adam Grant, which will be released April 24, 2017. She is also the author of the bestsellers Lean In: Women, Work,  and the Will to Lead and Lean In for Graduates. She is the founder of the Sheryl Sandberg & Dave Goldberg Family Foundation, a nonprofit organization that works to build a more equal and resilient world through two key initiatives, LeanIn.Org and OptionB.Org (launching April 2017). Sheryl serves on the boards of Facebook, the Walt Disney Company, Women for Women International, ONE, and SurveyMonkey.

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To learn more about Adam Grant click HERE.

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A Writer’s Badass Guide: Branding, Blogging, and Social Media.

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As stated on Amazon:

A Writer’s Badass Guide To Branding, Blogging and Social Media is a fun and easy step by step guide for new writers, bloggers and entrepreneurs. This book teaches writers how to conceptualize and develop their personal brand using meaningful and strategic exercises, create a website from soup to nuts, and utilize social media to promote their work. Nathalie Laitmon and Kristin McCarthy of SuburbanMisfitMom.com combine years of branding expertise with cutting edge social media strategies to assist writers and entrepreneurs in building an authentic and resonate brand that will get their writing read while growing their community of dedicated followers online. The authors use their offbeat sense of humor to motivate writers while demystifying the seemingly complex process of building a personal website and growing a brand.

 

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Nathalie Laitmon is a Branding professional and Staffing Entrepreneur from Manhattan who conceived Suburban Misfit Mom while nestled in the suburban bliss and drama of idyllic New England. On a daily basis, Nathalie asks herself, “Who died and made me the adult?” And the hubbie, three kids, the house and dog thing? It never gets old. Nathalie’s passion for creating a community of like-minded moms who are REAL, HONEST and MULTI-FACETED is just one of her fantasies that women will support and embrace each other’s uniqueness. Other than writing essays and fiction, Nathalie’s passion is all about helping other writers build their brands and identify their authentic writing voices. She is interested in living a passionate, purposeful life and is found hiding inside the toy closet with her Kindle to figure out how. She is currently writing a novel about a cult in the suburbs. Nathalie is available for speaking engagements, brand consulting for companies and individual writers, focus groups and events that cull the power of the Suburban Misfit Mom community.

 

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Kristin McCarthy is the funny, snarky mastermind behind the blog Four Princesses and The Cheese.  This Midwestern Misfit Mama spends her days raising her four small daughters, vacuuming up Legos and Shopkins and swearing at the piles of laundry constantly surrounding her.  When she isn’t attending to her domestic duties, she can be found writing at Suburban Misfit Mom, Red Tricycle, and Parent Co.  Kristin has been published on a number of tolerant sites that put up with her ranty writings including Blunt Moms, Sammiches and Psych Meds, Bon Bon Break, Hooray For Moms, Practical Politicking, and Erma Bombeck.

My thoughts:

I have an advertising background, I am a blogger, and I do some small business marketing consulting which often includes social media…and I can’t believe how much I learned from this Badass Guide!  The Badass authors, Nathalie Laitmon and Kristin McCarthy helped me conquer the emotional and technical challenges of starting a blog…commitment, focus and authenticity paired with the basic, everyday computer obstacles someone of my age just might experience!  There is always more to learn and A Writer’s Badass Guide: Branding, Blogging and Social Media doesn’t disappoint.  Never have I seen a step by step guide that encompasses all the information needed to put out a cohesive, appealing  product into the virtual world…it’s not that daunting if you can follow directions.  You may begin to notice small changes on Book Nation by Jen here and there as I transform into a Badass…stay tuned!

This easy to read ebook can be preordered for delivery directly to your reading devise on April 1st for only $5.99. Order today on AMAZON  You won’t be sorry!